I was watching Deadliest Catch tonight as Captain Phil died and his sons struggled with his death.
And I thought.
Ya know? As much as that would suck I wish I had had a father. An old man. Somebody I coulda’ looked up to and tried to be like.
But I didn’t. And don’t.
Instead, I have some guy living out on the other side of the country that every century or so tries to get in touch with me and be my bud.
Dude. I don’t need another old friend.
I needed a dad.
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Sadly I think some guys just don’t get it. I’m pretty close to my dad but I don’t know if my daughters will have that kind of closeness with theirs. When their father and I divorced they were 7 and 3. He didn’t stay in Virginia, he moved back to Colorado to be close to his friends and family ~ you would have thought he would have wanted to stay closer so he could be “dad” but guess not. He opted for long distance telephone calls and maybe a once a year visit when he flew them out for a couple of weeks in the summer. Now they are 19 and 16….he doesn’t know what he missed. Like I said, some guys just don’t get it.
You can pick alot of things in life…where ya live, what you do, who ya marry. Shame ya can’t pick parents. I’ll trade ya a wacked out missing mom for an absent dad!
Naw…,let’s not!We both turned out ok without ’em! Their loss!!
Yeah, my dad has been a missing person most of my life. I tried once or twice (wish I could say HE did, but no). We’d get together, have dinner, and then I wouldn’t hear from him until another five years had passed. Then I called and asked him to my wedding and he said he already had plans and I’ve had nothing to do with him since. His loss.
I feel fine about it, really. Have a great stepdad… but sometimes I wonder if his absense hasn’t played a larger role in my life than I realize. I dunno. Something to ponder.
I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you this, but I think you’re freaking amazing. But… yeah. It kinda sucks. I guess I have nothing real substantial to offer.
Oh, and your Justin Beiber post made me laugh out loud, like, four times. Just thought I’d throw that in there. He’s such a turd.